I had this cat for 3 years and we were completely attached to eachother. I recently moved out of my parents house and tried to take him with me, but he just wouldn't adjust in my apartment, so I brought him back to my parent's house, and he seems happy and content there. I was lonely in my apartment so I just got a new kitten. I miss my other cat terribly and I know I will never love this cat as much as my old one. I feel bad for adopting this kitten and getting him in the middle, I am taking care of him very well, I just feel bad for getting a new cat. Am I terrible? Should I not have got him? Should I have given my old cat more time to adjust?
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No u arent terrible. But yes u didnt give the cat enough time to adjust. Take it back with you im pretty sure ill get along with ur kitty. Good Luck
maybe your old cat didn't want to adjust or maybe it just needed more time, either way you have another cat that needs your love and affection all the same, so just take good care of it like you would its brother or sister whatever the case is that is now living at your parents house again :)
it takes time to ajust to the new kitten thats how i feel but dont worry i think everything will be just fine!
It's never a bad idea to get a cat. It's also never a bad idea to do what's best for your pet, and taking your older cat back to a place where he is comfortable is not a bad thing to do. Of course, you will always love him. You can visit him and he will probably remember you, and your voice and touch in particular.
Try to fall in love with your new kitten, and you will come to love him, too. I'm not saying you should stop loving your old cat, just that you should love your new cat, too. Don't compare him to your old cat too much because cats have their own distinct personalities just like people do.
Have patience -- give yourself a little time to adjust. Spend as much time as you can with your new kitten and your patience will be rewarded. Of course you're not a bad person.
I believe in time you will love the new cat as much as the old. You two are just getting to know one another, just give it some time. I went through something similar when my 14 year old cat died and I got a kitten, but over the course of months we have bonded and I love her more every day.
No...you are bound to miss your old cat, you will feel like you have replaced him with the new kitten, but over time you will bond with your new kitten and will come to love it as much as your old cat. At least be glad that your old cat is happy and healthy, and enjoy your new kitten.
Let's see - you did what you felt was best for your old friend. You gave another homeless animal a home. You are taking good care of the new pet. Hmmm. Where did you get the idea you were terrible?! Maybe your old cat would have adjusted if you'd given him more time. But he's obviously happy where he's at. Cats tend to bond to places as well as to humans, much more than dogs do. It's hard to say whether you should have gotten another kitten. It depends on whether you think you'll ever bond, period. It's not a bad thing to grieve for a friend, but love isn't divisible. It multiplies. You can love both cats, esp. if you get over the guilt of giving your old cat back to the home he loved. Also, keep in mind that a part of bonding is the "OMG, WHAT have I done!" stage. Some people go through that stage faster than others, but it's perfectly natural.
Yes, to both of your questions. you should have given your old cat more time to adjust to the new surrounding and he would have been find. If you had taken him on the weekend home so that he could have gotten used to the place with you there before you left him along while you worked or went to school, you wouldn't had to take him back to your parents house. But the damage is done now, so give the kitten a chance and I 'm sure it will make you fall in Love with it just as much as the other one. Hey, look on the bright side you now have the best of both worlds; a cat at home and one to visit at your Parents home too.
Its natural to miss ur old cat and u will always have a special bond for him. But given time you will love this cat as well. It's not that you will not love ur cat as much its just that you will love this cat in a different way. It will all work out you just need to have patience. I think you did the right thing getting a kitten cos it makes the loss a little easier. As much as u miss ur old cat now you kinda have something to fill the gap. Give it time. I also had to leave my old cat and get a new kitten cos i moved so i know how hard it is. Good luck and hang in there!
I鈥檓 very sorry for you鈥?don鈥檛 worry you鈥檒l get over it. I had 12 cats in the past and all of them are dead now. I have made a collection of all their pictures. I could have showed them to you as I have already uploaded them on http://www.2and2.net but unfortunately this forum does not support images.
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