A couple minutes ago my mom relized that my cat had magets under her fur. My mom said that we had to bring her to the pound for the cats sake. I am really upset. She was the sweetest thing that ever happened to me. Has anyone experienced losing a very much loved animal? How did you calm your self to let the hard time pass. Can anyone give me some advice?
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That's a really sad thing, it was very smart of your mum to do the right thing for her...time heals all wounds.
Its obvious to me that if the mother had of had the $ she would have taken the pet to the vet...so she did the next best thing...bottom line the cat is now getting the medical attention that she needs
Its always sad to lose a pet, especially one that you have had for a while that is considered a family member. I have lost a few cats during my years, that I considered to be a part of the family. It is hard to deal with, but life goes on, and you always have your memory of the cat and can always remember the good times.
I am so sorry for your loss. I have had cats all my life and lost many. Its very difficult to go through but I have found that remembering everything good about her/him and getting a new one helps a lot. Not to replace that one but to start over and give your heart to a new baby! :) Good luck.
Why would you not have taken her to the vet instead?
If an animal is consistently groomed and cared for, there shouldn't be any reason for it to get maggots. Perhaps it was just an injury that could have been cleaned up and antibiotics given...
If she really is "very much loved," please rethink the decision to dump her at the pound, and seek vet assistance instead.
Oh, my dear - I hurt with you. It will take time for you to get through this (we don't get "over" these things).
There are other people who have suffered loss of a beloved furbaby. Many are ready and willing to help you.
Please go to petloss.com. Go to the grief chat area for real time talk.
I am a docent there (known as a wolf).
you mom is mean, she should have taken your cat to the doctor.
:-o omg... why in the world would your mother do that?
way to set an example for your daughter on how to be a responsible and caring pet-owner.. and individual. I hope you realize that that was a very poor decision on her part, and do not feel like it is your fault AT ALL.
wow, stunned.. seriously.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't know how old you are, but no matter I'm sure this is very difficult for you. Have you asked your mother why she felt the need to dump your baby instead of taking it to the vet?
I KNOW vets are expensive, but with the right research and patience (for sitting at a walk-in clinic, etc), you can find affordable pet care. if your mom isn't willing to pay for her pets' medical expenses, she shouldn't have pets!
argh.. SO frustrating... I'm so sorry honey. :( I would sit down and talk to your mother.. maybe you can do some chores or something to help pay for the vet bills... try to convince her to go get your cat back..
that really sucks.
IF you can't get your baby back... (seriously, try...) then try this:
first of all.. CRY.. let your emotions out.. it's perfectly ok to be hurt, upset, angry, and confused right now.
maybe write out a letter to your kitty thanking him/her for all the good times...or just make a list of all the good times.
write out the emotions your experiencing
draw a picture from a good memory and put it somewhere that will make you smile.
read this:
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together.
also, here's a link for other poems about the loss of a pet:
http://www.petloss.com/poems/poems.htm...
good luck, sweetie. may your heart heal fast. :(
also, please don't immediately go out and get a replacement.. this won't allow you the proper time to grieve. I had to put a kitten to sleep that suffered from severe seizures (this was after spending $1000--I only had her 6 weeks)... and NOTHING else could be done for here... I waited 6 months to adopt another baby.. when I felt it would be honoring her memory, instead of replacing her!
In 2004, my Shetland Sheepdog passed away due to pancreatitis. I had him since he was a puppy and he died at age 7. His name was Cale. I was very, very bonded to Cale and I would take him everywhere with me and cuddle into him on the couch at night. I was heartbroken when he died. There are a few things that helped me.
1. Mourning is very healthy. Do not be afraid to cry and release the pain. The crying is just honoring your love for your cat. It is just as painful when a beloved pet dies as when a human in your family dies.
2. This is getting into my spirituality, but maybe it will help you. If not, just discard this information. I believe we are all beings of energy encompassing a body so we can experience ourselves. That is life. However, life is just the illusion and not the reality. This goes for animals too, and I believe other animals are more aware of this than our species. Just because the body is not around does not mean the energy of your cat and my dog is not around, most of us just haven't developed the ability to see them or hear them (even though we do hear them at times and feel their presence). I believe we don't die, we just abandon our bodies and continue existing in our natural form, which is energy, until we decide to reincarnate again, if we choose to. Knowing this helped me understand that whenever I thought of my dog, his energy would be around me if I felt like I needed him. I could still talk to him like I always had and I would be able to be with him again. I also believe that sometimes pets come back to us in a different body.
Again, those are my beliefs and if they feel incorrect to you, please discard that information, but it really helps me when a loved one passes. Do not be afraid to mourn, there is nothing wrong with it. I am so sorry to hear about you losing your cat in the physical presence and I hope you can find peace.
I'm sorry, your mom lied. It sounds like soemthing that could be treatable and your mom didn't want to pay. Unfortunatlky for you, it is iiresposible to get a pet if you are unwilling to take care of it and meet your responsibilities. I hope your mom doesn't get any more animals but I hope you in the future will and will take care of them. Sorry
WHAT?!?!? Please, ask your Mom to reconsider. When I first got my cat, she had worms, maggots, an ear infection and a bowel infection but we didn't take her back to the pound! It didn't even cross our minds! We brought her to the vet. She was sick for a few weeks, but she recovered and now she's fine. That was four years ago, and she's still doing great. If your Mom is just going to dump your kitty like that, she shouldn't even BE a pet owner in the first place.
If you can't get your Mom to reconsider, remember all the good times you had with your kitty, all their little quirks. All the things they did that made you smile.
As I'm writing this, I can see a picture of my old cat, Puss who ran away when I was a kid. I remember being really sad when she never came home, but looking at her picture now, It makes me think of dragging a piece of string around while she chased it. I miss her, but it makes me feel happy.
Best of luck hun ^_^
xx
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